Seriously. And they confuse the shit out of me in more than one way. I try to understand them. But there`s a few things that I`m clueless to hell about. So I`m gonna say what I gotta say then open up for conversation to any women who wanna comment on anythin` I say in this little rant.
First off. Though I`m pretty much to the point where it doesn`t bother me anymore. I was with someone recently. Happened to be that it was someone that I knew for quite a while. Started to get feelin`s and decided to see what happened from it. Everythin` was goin` good for about a month or so until she all of a sudden "couldn`t find time" to see me. I dealt with it for a couple weeks. But the thought of bein` with someone that knew so much about me and was someone that I would consider one of my best friends could no longer find ANY time to see me got to the point where I told myself I needed out of the situation. How you gonna tell me you can`t find ANY time AT ALL to see me? SERIOUSLY?!?!? Seems more like you don`t WANT to see me. If you did, you would find time. Even if it`s just to stop by for a few minutes and say "hi". I`m not a difficult dude. I`d be happy with that. All I`m askin` for is some face time. And I`m sorry. But bein` that it was my first attempt at bein` in a relationship again after about 3-4 years, it didn`t really leave me on a good note to want to try and hop back in a situation again lol. I don`t care how busy I am. If I WANT to be in a relationship with someone. I`m gonna go outta my way to make sure I can find some time to set aside to see that person. Even if it`s just goin` over to sleep. Face time means a lot in a growin` relationship. At least in my book it does. But maybe I`m wrong ladies. Maybe I`m not understandin`. If that`s the case, explain how I`m wrong. Because from where I stand, I don`t see how I wouldn`t be able to find ANY time to see the person I`m with. And I keep emphasizin` ANY because that`s what it was. Last time I seen her was on Thanksgivin`. Didn`t break up with her `til after New Years. Started seemin` like every reason to not be able to see me was bein` found and used. You tellin` me I can`t get 5 minutes out of a day? One night out of a week?
Ok. On to my next bone to pick with you women. This is about a friend. So if she reads this, she might hate me for a while lol. But it`s somethin` that bothers me as well. Actually this is about 2 people at the same time. Kind of the same situation with both. I mean I`m all about not ruinin` friendships. But I hate when that`s the only excuse you have for not wantin` to give things a try and see if more than "friends" is possible. In one case, I think it`s more of a case of not bein` faithful and somethin` happenin` along the way on her part that might ruin shit. But if that`s the case just come out and say it lol. And the other situation I don`t know what to think. She don`t seem like the type of person to get in a relationship and do somethin` to mess it up. But she keeps tossin` that "I don`t wanna ruin our friendship" thing at me. I don`t see her reasonin` because she`s the type of person that I can`t think of anythin` that would come up to mess things up. But I guess she thinks it`s possible, so I can`t really hate on this. But it`s somethin` I never fully understood. I`m the type of dude that would rather try and be with someone that I`m close friends with. Cuz then I already know a lot about you. I think it gives the relationship a better chance as opposed to jumpin` into a relationship with someone brand new. But maybe that`s just me. Feel free to lemme know what you women think about this.
Ok. I`ll stop at this for now. These are the biggest 2 things that irk me at the moment. Any of you women that actually read this and have any input feel free to comment. Am I wrong about the findin` time situation or do y`all agree with me and was movin` on the best thing to do? And why do you women seem to frown on tryin` to give a relationship with a chance someone that you`ve know for some years? Is knowin` somebody actually a bad thing when it comes to tryin` to see if things can be taken past more than just friends? Fill me in on these...
I think you did the right thing by walking away. You need someone who has time for you and supports you in what you do. on to the other situation maybe the person you are talking bout liked you, and when they realized you weren't going to leave your girlfriend for her, it was easier to use the friend thing and walk away instead of being hurt in the long run. you need someone who is willing to spend time with you, go to your shows and support you. maybe you had that person and instead of making the decision to leave your girl sooner you waited to long and she left. now only you can try to fix things. i bet if you tried to talk to her then maybe she would give you another chance. you never know she may still want to be with you too.
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